So now over one week into being an official New York resident, and let me tell you how interesting and stressful this whole change has been. Along with everything that is going on in the world. Although if I am being honest, I like that there are other things to focus on, (No I do not enjoy the bad things happening in the world, you sadist) so I can keep my mind bouncing off other things and not get overwhelmed.
I am having such issues focusing today!
Alright my song is on. Perfect. So I survived this week with no car, and doing everything from home. But I worked out everyday, made that routine, spent time with David's step-mother, and that was very nice. She has helped with my transition to a new place a lot. I am super grateful to have someone who loves me, and has a beautiful family all over to support us. That always makes me feel happy.
So today, my friends, here is what I hope to enlighten you about a new move across the world, whether it is a country, state, town, wherever. Change is change. Whether you are ready or not.
Since I am now settled-ish, I am hoping to plan out my blogs more. So today I am hoping to talk about dealing with the transition, the trial and error I have experienced, as well as things I have learned to do better.
We are going to reflect on my first week here, compared to others' first weeks in new places.
Dealing with stress, and anxiety, depression, or all of the new feelings that flood to you.
Feeling lonely or homesick,
AND the biggest one!
Friends and family back home.
This is a huge one, and you will figure out why. Ready? Here we go!
So my first week here was filled lots of adjustments. We will talk about that too.
The first day we were here, we relaxed, and tried to be outside a lot, or standing, because we had just spent the last five days driving, cramped in a car, and never further than four inches from each other. I mean I love that we are close, but that becomes intense. And by intense I mean we made our own language... Yeah.
The rest of the week, was David going to work, and me trying to start applying for jobs, applying like a madwoman. Calling college advisors, working to get things set up for me, because I am coming to a new place with nothing.
Then, his Step-mom took me out to get our nails done, and that was nice, because just for a few minutes, I could forget all these things I had to do, and have my hands massaged, and my legs massaged, and talk to other ladies in there. Or sit and have my back massaged in those awesome pedicure seats we all love, (Am I right though?)
We also went shopping for clothes, shoes, and furniture shopping yesterday. I mean the move made us pretty broke, so it was window shopping for me, but it was nice to feel somewhat normal. They also have a pool, so if I would have a moment, or feel stressed, I would lay in the sun, or go swimming at night, and just try to relax.
Let me explain how this is stressful, because I feel like right about now you might be saying, "How are you stressed if you have been spending your days on vacation?"
I get it, and the first couple days were nice, but, this was a typical day for me.
Get up, let Cooper outside, play with him, bring him in, feed him. No one is home but me and the dog, so I go downstairs and workout, come back up, and have coffee and breakfast.
Then, I spend most of my day on my phone and computer until it dies, and David has the charge cord, so then I am on my phone. Go outside, walk around. Walk Cooper. Call people.
Find things to do. Clean sheets, clean counters, clean room. Make bed.
Sit... Sit.... Sit...
Then people come home! Talk about their day, go workout, eat dinner watch TV, Go to bed because they had a long day... But what if I wanted to go somewhere. I am still awake.
And Repeat. That was my first week. Stressful right? And no one else gets it because it is JUST YOU.
At first I felt horrible, well, I still feel bad, because I am surrounded by these amazing people, but I still feel alone. Such a whirlwind of complications.
Now, I am into a better routine, and I have a car! I will be working from home today mostly because I have a charged computer now and can do most of these things online now! No travel necessary.
Coffee or tea shops in the evening. Perfect.
So the transition for me, was much easier, because I had people to surround me on the weekends, and evenings to have dinner with. I am very fortunate for that. A lot of other people are not.
For those of you who are not or will not be staying with a family, I suggest going out to a coffee shop, or a tea shop, or trying to find a place with communal tables, or even getting the app meetup, because you can meet hundreds of people who love doing the same thing you do, wherever you are.
***That being said, if you are alone, always be careful. Never let your guard down, that is important***
Now, moving onto stress, anxiety, and depression.
And I totally get it, if you are the type of person, and there are these awesome people out there, who go to a whole new place, and settle right in, make new friends, and are perfectly fine, or close to it. Kudos to you, you miracle human beings!!! I love it, and I wish you the best!
On the opposite side of the spectrum, there are others who become very lonely, very depressed, and become very under stress when they have this large of a change. There is also an anxiety that is solely associated with change, which is something I have.
To Be Continued...
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